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Name: Ivy

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Age: 23

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Birthday: 30 November

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Monday, April 18, 2005

If you have read the Straits Times a few days ago, at a small vertical column, there is an article on a 25 going 26 year old man who collapsed after running the treadmill in the gym. He was announced dead when he reached the hospital.

That man was my university classmate's friend's husband. If you continue to read on, the article said that they had only been married for 47 days. And he was gone now.

My friend told me this afternoon when we met for our project work that they had a memorial service last week and her friend (the wife) went up on stage for a testimonial. She was strong, and she held back her tears as she relate how they have first met, how she found out from his diary that he loved her since that first time and had already wanted her to be his wife.

She relates how loving was her husband and how he always did the housework for her even though they are both working. She relates that he had always kept the two eggs that she gave to him. (She drew a girl and a boy's face on each egg) She relates how on that day he died, the egg with the boy's face fell on the ground and broke when she wanted to show the eggs to her friend.

Throughout the whole testimonial, she never cried. She held back her tears and spoke with determination and strength. My friend however, cried. She felt so sad because their marriage had only just begun and her friend was now without her loved one.

They were Christians though, and their belief was that one will go to heaven when they died. Thus, the service, although filled with grief and sadness, was to 'celebrate' that the husband had went onto heaven and begin a new life there.

I would have cried too, if I am at that memorial service. I would cry too, if I've heard that my loved one had passed away, without me by his side. I would not be able to think for a few months probably, and would felt my life is meaningless without him by my side. Grief and sadness are the worst thing that one had to experience.

But after grief, sadness and suffering, what was left for you is a harder shell, a different outlook in life where you would really cherish your close ones and a new beginning. This reminds me of the music video of 'Fighter' by Christina Arguilera. After the pain and suffering, you will become a stronger person and that is what humans have to go through.

My friend wondered why a relationship would be shortened so aruptly, since they are so happy together. The other friend who was with us told us that thats because the karmic relationship of these two had ended. That both have paid up what they owe of one another and that relationship ended when they are no more debts between them. This is karma, destiny and fate.

As you can see, my friend is a christian, while the other believes in spirituality. I like listening to their beliefs, and I am glad that they never try to push me to believe in their beliefs.

I shall end now by sending my deepest condolences to that friend of hers, and the family of the man who died.

ironyv at 7:53 AM


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